Comments on: Bad parenting advice

by: gfrancie

Tue, 18 Nov 2003 23:32:04 +0000

fascinating stuff.

by: gfrancie

Tue, 18 Nov 2003 05:13:51 +0000

The attitude also seems to be that teens have no sense of self-control and they are wild animals.

I didn’t have sex when I was in high school. Sure I had raging hormones, but I didn’t go out there and hump everything under the sun.

How are people going to learn to have a relationship if they never have one?
It isn’t like you are going to wake up when you are twenty three and know how to do it right off the bat.

by: notnormalikeyou

Tue, 18 Nov 2003 04:26:03 +0000

You make several excellent points, and this is exactly what I was talking about. The notion that article presents is downright wrongheaded and will lead to messed-up kids who aren’t capable of grown-up relationships.

Of course, the fundamentalist religious cartel in this country controls the national agenda so much that a ridiculous statement like that can go unchallenged, even though any actual teenager you asked could tell you the most likely outcome of that attitude (teens shagging in secret, and an inability to sustain a real relationship, lasting for years into adulthood).

Thanks for your agreement and comment.

-Dan

by: notnormalikeyou

Tue, 18 Nov 2003 04:20:47 +0000

You can currently read the various sections of this Netscape feature story at this address: http://channels.netscape.com/ns/news/usspecial.jsp However, that link is not a permanent one, so expect it to change soon. This is the relevant content currently displayed at the above address: Biggest Factor in Teen Sex Choices? Mom
Moms who have a close relationship with their teens can have a big influence on whether their child becomes sexually active. But research shows it takes more than just talk.
Teen Sex: What Makes a Difference?

• Teens: Home Alone and Having Sex

• Teens Get Sex Ed From 'Friends'

• Google Search: Safe Sex

The information I originally linked was inside the "Teen Sex: What Makes a Difference?" article.

by: gfrancie

Tue, 18 Nov 2003 01:39:00 +0000

where was the entire original article

by: gfrancie

Tue, 18 Nov 2003 01:32:39 +0000

Boy…that is rather interesting.
I would think that frequent steady dating would be a good thing. The teenager would be learning how to be in a relationship and hopefully it would be a stable relationship.
If parents are supportive of a carring relationship, it will teach both people involved how to be a functioning member of a relationship.
When the couple has to hide what they are doing, or they are forbidden to be with eachother it tends to teach things like a lack of trust, and propels kids towards dysfunctional relationships.

by: notnormalikeyou

Tue, 18 Nov 2003 00:14:54 +0000

You missed my bold print. I purposely bolded frequent and steady dating because that was the portion with which I was taking issue. That's the stupid part. The (acceptable) "early" part just happened to be grouped with it in the same sentence by the author. You know I am not in favor of excessively young teenagers dating.

by: proceedcyclone

Tue, 18 Nov 2003 00:10:41 +0000

True, they shouldn’t encourage their children to fool around with just any hooligan, but I don’t think that’s what they were suggesting. I think they were merely suggesting to discourage dating at an early age because statistics show that teenagers who date earlier are more likely to engage in sex at an earlier age.

-Tia